So I’ve been kinda emotional this week! I mean my book is actually being released which is almost mind blowing to me, I’m steadily making moves to touch more people in my ministry, and yet and still… I’m still me. Me…. Soleil Meade…. the person who loves hard, gives easily, pushes and pushes others and herself. But you know what it gets hard sometimes…you know loving the RIGHT WAY!!! Today I posted “Words carry weight but words without actions lose weight!” My love language is Words of Affirmation so for years words soothed me and if you’re words were right towards me then I felt like you loved me. Even if it was one moment where your words impacted me greatly then I would cling to that moment and cherish it as a treasure of your love for me. I’m so glad I learned to do that because it helps me to cherish and relationships yet now that I’m “Growing Up In Love” I’m realizing, words are merely enough. I’d say since 2013 its been very evident to me, that I can no longer latch onto people words alone but action needs to support what they say. Why? because actions speak louder than words. Words are very powerful and important yet easily manipulated. Prov. 18:21 tells us life and death are in the power of our tongue (words). James 3 tells us how untamable our tongues are. One of the key things I’m embracing this year is wisdom (going very well for me) and wisdom wouldn’t have you to believe on words alone, even in James ch. 2 we’re taught faith without works is DEAD.
So I’m growing up in love. I will continue to embrace the words people shower on me to convey their love yet I realize that actions should back up their words. I’ve shed way too many tears, battled too many broken hearts and disappointment all because people’s words didn’t match up with their actions. I refuse to allow those encounters to taint my love…. so what do I do? I walk out God’s word that tells me love is (see scripture below) despite what is done toward me and I choose to grow up in love. I’m setting a love standard today!! I think I’ve mastered not lowering my standards in men, but I’m going to not lower my standards in love. You might be saying, Well how can you do that? You can’t change people? You’re right I can’t but I can require to be loved properly and if people choose not to love properly then I can choose not to let it affect me in a negative way. Jesus loves me the right way and this morning I said to Him, ” As long as YOU love me, I’ll be just fine… yes their fickle, inconsistent or immature display of love may hurt me, but I have you! And I promise I’ll keep showing your love, maybe I can help them see what love looks like!”
Choose to grow up in love with me today. We’ll be on a journey together! Anyone who knows me knows I love hard and once you’re in you’re IN, but I have to be a better guard of my treasure- My love- and that is a challenge for me. What we have is special and doesn’t deserve mistreated, misused, abused or neglected…and guess what if we know that’s happening yet continue to allow it – we are no longer the victims but also an accessory to the crime!! Yeah tough pill but its real.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
New Living Translation (NLT)
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
New Living Translation (NLT)